You are Not Alone

If you were physically, mentally, or emotionally abused because of being “different” from the “typical” child, you are not alone. Even before receiving any diagnosis, many autistic children have suffered very much due to being pressured to try and behave more like “normal” children.

Neurobigotry against anyone who deviates from the “norm” is all too common. Too many suffer from being shamed and bullied for their differences. It is wrong to make a person feel bad for being themselves.

I have been having some very enlightening conversations via private messages with other Autistic Adults. It seems that many have suffered in silence for many years over the non-acceptance that they suffered while growing up. Many suffered at the hands of parents, carers, teachers, bullies, etc. and have not spoken out about this because of social pressure to show respect to authority figures.

It is time for this silence to end. It is time for you to know that you are NOT alone. Many of us have stories that we have kept locked away. Please know that you are not alone. I know this from some people sharing openly and others sharing privately. It is good to know that you are not alone and you are not wrong for being yourselves. It is time for Autistic people to come out and say that enough is enough. We will be silent about our abusers no longer. We are Autistic and we are proud to be ourselves.

I feel that this quote is very empowering for anyone who has been afraid to tell their story for whatever reason.

“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.” – Anne Lamott

If anyone would like to send me stories to share here anonymously, they can PM me and I will share their stories. without naming them.

I repeat, you are not alone.  There are many just like you out there. 

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17 thoughts on “You are Not Alone

  1. Heather Clark @Mom2Rebels

    So excited to read your advocacy in blog form! I love the name too. :)

    • Mahalo. I had a lot of encouragement to start blogging after a couple of my recent Facebook statuses and notes. I am glad to have had the push as I have been considering blogging for a while now. I am glad that you love the name! The word Aloha has many meanings. I feel like “Autistic Aloha” has much deeper meaning than what it may seem to have at first glance.

      Aloha <3

  2. cleopitty

    I am very happy you finally decided to blog as there are so many contributions you are making already. Awareness has to come from all angles. The tough matters have to be addressed. I very much agree with empowering yourself and demanding respect. Thanks for writing.

    • The abuse story idea is off to a very slow start. There may be some very understandable reluctance to “out” the stories of abuse by those who have been hurt. Being rejected, abused, and bullied creates some deep scars. That is tough to overcome. Hopefully more people will realize that unloading the burden of holding these secrets inside is freeing. It takes a heavy weight off of you that is holding you down to unload those stories. Even if they tell their stories anonymously, they are letting others know that they are not alone. There is comfort in know that you are not alone. We need to break those chains of secrecy and shame.

      Aloha

      • cleopitty

        That is my point. I can only explain what the bullying has caused my young child who at this age does not understand he is going through the aftermath. Now he want to be Hulk ot the superhero of the moment when someone does something bad to him and I try to tell him that HE is the superhero. I can see what is going on and I am working hard at helping him cope and building his self esteem. I think that your project will take time and some people will find it cathartic to let it out even if anonymous yet it is a brave thing to do.

  3. Welcome to the blogging world Steve. I have always admired your amazing words! Thanks for giving more people the opportunity to learn your awesome brand of Acceptance and LOVE!

  4. An excellent post on what will be a fantastic blog. You are awesome and I am so lucky to be able to call you a friend. Please pimp away on my pages and I’ll write a post sending my readers over. They are a lovely lot xx

    • Thank you so much Autismum for all that you have done with hosting my thoughts as guest posts on your blog. You are a great friend and ally. I have reblogged my 10 Tips guest post from your blog, I am learning some new tricks in this blogging world. :-)

      I look forward to seeing some of your lovely readers coming on over here. I hope that some of mine discover how wonderful your blog is by going over to Autismum.com to see for themselves.

      Aloha

  5. Steve!! You were one of the few people who helped to change my view of autism; and ultimately my daughter. I cannot wait to read this blog. Nor can I imagine how many people this will help!!! :)

    • That makes it all worth while to know that I helped you to learn more Acceptance for Autism and for your daughter. It warms my heart and puts a smile on my face to read your kind words. I sure hope that together with wonderful friends and allies like you, we can help make things better for all Autistics, children and adults alike!

      Aloha

  6. Very happy to have another blogger to follow :-)
    a story i am sharing openly:

    http://autismacceptance.quora.com/Breaking-Glass

    • That was a very powerful telling of your story, Amanda Mills! Thank you very much for opening up about how you were abused. I am sorry that you went through all of that. I hope that someone who may be in a similar situation can draw strength from knowing that they are not alone.

      I hope that by telling your story, perhaps someone else might be saved from having some of those things happen to them. If the abusers see that they will be exposed, they may rethink their actions and take a different path. Perhaps they can be taught that we all deserve some kindness and Aloha.

      We don’t deserve to be abused just because we may be “different” or “inconvenient” for our families and/or care givers. Disability rights are human rights. We deserve to be free from any kind of abuse.

      Aloha

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  8. I just added this quote to the piece because I feel that it really gives people permission to feel better about sharing their stories.

    “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.” – Anne Lamott

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