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Myth: All Autistics are Happy Being Loners

I am Autistic. I am not a good social self-starter.

People sometimes tell me, “We should get together for a visit.” or something similar, and I will say, “Yes, that would be nice.” Then months, or even years, go by with me waiting to see them. I don’t understand why things often don’t get beyond that first offer to get together. I guess they may be waiting for me to make some plans at that point?

“The hallmark feature of ASD is impaired social interaction.”

I have a social disability. So, I am not often going to make the social plans and invite people to do things. This doesn’t mean that I don’t want to visit or do things with people. I do enjoy other people. It is just not likely that I will make the first move, or sometimes even the second move.

I don’t readily understand the idea of a “social scoreboard” where people seem to keep track of who’s turn it is to make the social plans.

When in doubt, about me, please ask me rather than assuming that I am happy spending most of my time alone. I do enjoy my friends and want to do things with them.

All Autistics are not “loners” by choice. Many of us want to enjoy time with friends but don’t get included as often as we would like. Please consider these things and remember that most of us can be great friends if you give us the chance.

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